Should married people go out separately?

I have been married for 13 years. We were married in our early 20's. For years, I've been trying to instill in my husband the need to think as a married person. His favorite line is "what about me?? what about my life??" This past weekend he hung out with friends and came home 6:00 in the morning. He pretended he was going to get a haircut at 5:00 the evening before and then kept it moving until the next morning. He said he did it because if he wouldve asked me I wouldn't have "let him go" or I would've asked a bunch of questions. I dislike the term "wouldn't let him go". I would just rather he came to me and said "I'm going to hang out with (name) and we'll be at (place) and I'll be home by (time)" and stick to it. Dont get me wrong... I go out with girlfriends a couple of times a month.. we normally go to Applebees or the movies.. he knows all my friends and I'm usually home by 10:00 p.m. He, on the other hand wants to HANG OUT with his "oldest man in the club brother"..and go to a "LOUNGE" and come home 3:00, 4:00 or 5:00 in the morning. I'm a religious person and he feels I'm trying to force him to live up to my religious code of ethics. Being that I'm the only person he's ever been married to, he feels like I'm extreme in my disapproval of that behavior and just trying to control his life. He feels like he shouldn't have to do all that explaining and that no matter what he does, I will never trust him. What do you all think? Am I extreme or crazy in believing that married people shouldn't hang out all hours of the night?