Having a hard time making a decision for the training of my horse?

if your not too sure what your doing when it comes to training you may want to think of a trainer to break her and work with her. Ive found that while a horse is learning and being trained a consistent trainer is the best. I think your second scenario would be the best.... send her to a trainer.... I would have her in training for longer then 30 days though especially if she is green or unbroke.